Practical Guides

Practical Guides: The Tools for the Rebellion

We've explored the philosophy of our rebellion, the science that fuels it, and the clinical model that drives it. But none of that means a damn thing if it doesn't change your real, lived, everyday experience.

An "aha!" moment is the spark, not the fire. The fire is built with the small, consistent, and courageous actions you take day after day. This is where we get tactical.

This collection of guides is designed to be your field manual. It's for the moments you're standing in the trenches of your own life wondering, "Okay, but what the f*ck do I do now?" These are not abstract theories; they are practical, actionable tools for navigating a world that was not built for you.

Our Core Field Manuals

This is the machinery of change. Each of these guides is a deep, powerful tool designed to give you a new framework and a practical plan for some of the most profound challenges of a neurodivergent life.

An "aha!" moment is the spark, not the fire. The fire is built with the small, consistent, and courageous actions you take day after day.

Explore the Practical Guides

This is where theory becomes practice. Choose a guide below to equip yourself with the tools you need to thrive.

Learn the Models

The Engine of Our Practice

A Guide to Masking

The invisible, crushing, full-time job of performing "normalcy." This is our deep dive into the neuroscience of masking, its devastating costs, and the safe, compassionate path toward reclaiming your authentic self.

A Guide to Burnout

Burnout is not a personal failure; it is a state of nervous system collapse. We deconstruct the science of burnout and offer a real path to sustainable recovery.

How We Use the Brown EF/A Scales

We use this tool not as a test, but as a flashlight. A deep dive into how we use this nuanced, real-world measure of executive function to illuminate the specific points of friction in a person's daily life.

How We Use the Sensory Profile

A guide to understanding how we map a person's unique sensory landscape. This is the first step in deconstructing meltdowns, shutdowns, and burnout by honoring the body's reality.

Part of: The Science Hub | Explore the Full Enlitens Interview Model

No. While this model was architected from the ground up to meet the complex needs of neurodivergent individuals who have been failed by the traditional system, its core principles are universally human. It is, at its heart, a trauma-informed, strengths-based, and neurobiologically-grounded approach. It is profoundly effective for anyone with a history of complex trauma, anyone who has felt chronically misunderstood, or anyone who is simply tired of the pathologizing bulls*hit of the mainstream mental health world. It's a human-affirming model, period.

The full Enlitens Interview, from start to finish, is typically conducted over two or three sessions, which is standard for most comprehensive psychological assessments. The beauty of the modular design, however, is its flexibility. You don't always need to run the entire protocol. A skilled clinician can pull out a single module—like the "Social Debrief" or the "Cognitive Walk-Through"—to use as a powerful, targeted intervention within a standard 50-minute therapy session. The full interview is a deep dive; the individual modules are tactical tools for everyday use.

Fuck no. The names, the science, the theory—that's all for you, the clinician. It's the essential knowledge you need to understand the "why" behind what you're doing. For the client, the language should be simple, human, and collaborative. You'd never say, "Now I'm going to conduct a phenomenological inquiry." You'd say, "Let's set aside the story for a second. What was that feeling like in your body?" The model gives you the expert foundation; your own humanity provides the delivery.

Knowledge Is the Ammunition. Action Is Pulling the Trigger.

These guides are your first step toward building a new toolkit. The next step is learning how to use them with a guide who gets it.

All Practical Guides

Neurodivergent Burnout

A Guide To Burnout: Your Body Is Not a Machine

Burnout is a physiological state of nervous system collapse, not a personal failure. The masking-to-burnout pipeline is linear — more masking, more damage....

Neurodivergent Experience

The Crushing Labor of Masking: A Neurodivergent Guide

Masking isn't 'acting normal.' It's a three-stage survival process with real neurological costs. A field manual for coming in from the cold....

Therapy & Coaching

Parent's Guide to the Fit Check: The First Call

Co-regulation is the mechanism that builds secure attachment. Your child's nervous system borrows stability from yours — that's why we start with you....

Assessment & Testing

No 8-Month Wait: Our Flexible Assessment Process

Your child is in crisis and the system says wait 8 months. That's negligence. A guide to faster, therapeutic assessment in St. Louis....

Assessment & Testing

Why Autism & ADHD Testing Costs $3,500 (And How to Pay)

Where the money goes, why insurance denies coverage, and how to navigate the 'superbill shell game' for ADHD and autism testing reimbursement....

Assessment & Testing

How to Use Your Brain Guide to Change Your Life

You got your assessment results. Now what? A practical guide to turning self-knowledge into real change — without getting stuck in analysis paralysis....

Getting Started

You've Been Burned Before. Here's How We Prevent It.

Physiological synchrony correlates with outcomes. Your 'gut feeling' about a bad therapist isn't anxiety — it's your nervous system detecting the gap....

Trauma Recovery

Bottom-Up Therapy: When You Can't Talk Out a Panic Attack

Cognition-oriented therapies alone are insufficient for trauma. Bottom-up, body-based interventions are essential when your nervous system is hijacked....

Therapy Philosophy

You're the Expert. We Have the Map. Let's Collaborate.

Your nervous system evaluates safety without conscious awareness. A hierarchical therapist triggers defense — not healing. We collaborate instead....

Assessment

From Diagnosis to Accommodations: Your User Manual Guide

Post-diagnosis, individuals hit a 'support cliff.' This guide bridges from your diagnosis to the college and workplace accommodations you deserve....

Burnout

It's Not Imposter Syndrome. It's Neurological Data.

Dopamine signals prediction errors. Your brain allocates energy based on perceived reward — and corporate busywork generates zero signal....

Crisis Intervention

Four Years in the ER: How Crisis Shaped Our Approach

Environments without psychological safety trigger fight-flight-freeze. My ER years forged a crisis approach built on co-regulation, not containment....

Trauma & Healing

Default Mode Network

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Assessment & Testing

Your Experience is Not Up for Debate.

Diagnostic invalidation is real. A guide for those terrified an assessment will deny their reality — your experience is never up for debate....

Parent Guides

Empathy Slows Aging: A 2025 Study on Compassion

Storytelling is a primary adaptation for prosocial behavior. Compassion isn't a 'soft skill' — it's biological armor embedded in their cells....

Executive Function

Executive Function at Home: A Parent's Guide

You hold it together all day, then come home paralyzed. This isn't a moral failing — it's executive function collapse. Here's why and what helps....

Therapy & Coaching

You Understand the "Why." Now You Need the "How."

You've done the deep work in therapy, but daily life is still chaos. You don't need more talk — you need a toolkit. Executive function coaching explained....

Executive Function

This Isn't About Your Mother. It's About Your Monday.

Tired of your week being a mess? This isn't therapy. It's a practical guide to building the systems and tools you need to get the job done. Just focus....

Executive Function

The Wall of Awful: Why You Can't Click the Button

That paralysis right before you click 'schedule'? It's not weakness. It's your nervous system doing its job. A guide to the Wall of Awful and through it....

Executive Function

You Don't Need Another Planner. You Need a System.

Is your home a graveyard of empty planners and failed apps? You're not lazy — you're a scientist. The data is clear: neurotypical tools don't work for you....

Getting Started

If You're Looking for a Blank Slate, I'm Not Your Therapist.

Prediction errors drive learning and memory updating. A therapist who only echoes your patterns can never trigger the mismatch your brain needs to change....

Getting Started

The 15-Minute Vibe Check: A No-BS Guide to the First Call.

Physiological synchrony between client and therapist predicts outcomes. The 'vibe check' isn't a gimmick — it's the most evidence-based first step....

Neurodiversity & Trauma

Healing When the Trauma Is Still Happening: A Guide

Allostatic load drives breakdown. How to heal when the trauma is ongoing — a neuroscience-backed guide for co-parenting warriors still in the storm....

Neurodivergent Experience

How We Use The Brown Ef A Scales

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Parenting

Is It ADHD or Just Being a Kid? A Parent's Guide

Your kid builds LEGO universes for hours but can't focus on homework? This isn't a behavior problem. The neuroscience of the ADHD paradox explained....

Neurodiversity

This Isn't a Demolition. It's a Renovation.

A late ADHD or autism diagnosis after divorce isn't demolition. It's the missing blueprint explaining your survival — a guide to rebuilding....

Therapy & Identity

Beyond the Rainbow Sticker: What "LGBTQIA+ Affirming" Actually Means.

Epistemic injustice causes mental health inequities — compounded by intersectionality. 'Affirming' is not a feeling. It's a measurable clinical competency....

Trauma & Healing

Memory Reconsolidation Therapy

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Therapy & Coaching

Why Your Therapist Should Have an Opinion: Our Approach

The relational model is the single most robust predictor of outcomes. A therapist with a pulse beats a blank screen every time. Here's how we work....

Therapy & Coaching

Teaching Your Therapist? Find a Neuro-Affirming One

Epistemic injustice directly causes mental health inequities. If you're teaching your therapist about your brain, you're in the wrong room....

Burnout

Burnout Partner Guide: In the Blast Radius

Co-regulation is one of the most energy-intensive tasks a human can perform. Your burnout as a partner isn't weakness — it's resource bankruptcy....

Child Assessment

This Isn't a Test. It's a Conversation Disguised as Play.

Worried assessment will traumatize your child? A guide to the neuroscience of neuroception — how we create biological safety that unlocks authentic data....

Accommodations & Advocacy

How to Talk About Your Brain in a Job Interview

Girls and women mask ADHD at high cost. A guide to translating neurodivergent strengths in job interviews and advocating for accommodations....

Neurodivergent Experience

Masking & Burnout: Curating Your Story After Late Diagnosis

You're not a liar. You're a survivor. Every mask was a brilliant adaptive tool. A research-backed guide to reclaiming your identity after late diagnosis....

Trauma & Healing

Neuroplasticity & Trauma: Building New Neural Roads

Neuroplasticity is lifelong — your brain changes at any age. 'Can't teach an old dog new tricks' is a lie. Here are the blueprints for new roads....

Neurodiversity & Parenting

My Kid, My Expertise: Why the System Fails Parents

A 2025 study confirms the system fails when it ignores parents. Research shows parental 'resistance' is historically significant — not difficult....

Neurodiversity & Parenting

You're Not Overreacting. You're Paying Attention.

Told you're overreacting about your child? Your nervous system evaluates risk unconsciously. Parental instinct is backed by neuroception science....

Relationships & Self-Advocacy

A Translation Guide for Parents Who Don't Get ADHD

Your parents don't believe in ADHD? Communication breakdown is mutual — the Double Empathy Problem. A guide to using science as your translator....

Cost & Insurance

Anatomy of a "Cash Grab": How to Spot a Predatory Assessment Practice.

The ADOS-2 and standard diagnostic tools are fundamentally biased. A $4,000 assessment on a biased test isn't expertise — it's a tax on desperation....

Assessment & Testing

What a Real Brain User Manual Actually Looks Like

Tired of reports listing your 'deficits'? We are too. How our strengths-based Brain Guide works — designed for you, not your insurance company....

Neurodiversity

The Neurodivergent Hangover: A Sensory Processing Guide

Your nervous system has documented sensory gating differences. You can 'pass' in a loud world, but you pay for it later. The sensory hangover explained....

Therapy & Coaching

This Isn't a Life Sentence. It's a Boot Camp.

Coaching should make itself obsolete. A manifesto against endless therapy. Our coaching is a short-term boot camp to give you skills — not a life sentence....

Cost & Insurance

We Don't Need to See Your Pay Stubs. We Trust You.

Neuroception detects safety subconsciously. Forcing you to 'prove' financial struggle is a neuroceptive threat triggering the shame you're healing....

Cost & Insurance

Sliding Scale Therapy: Support You Deserve

Emotional safety is a non-negotiable prerequisite for healing. Financial transparency isn't a 'nice policy' — it's a clinical intervention....

Neurodiversity

Why Your Social Battery Dies So Fast: A Neuro Guide

Your social battery is real — a measure of finite cognitive resources drained by three neurological forces: sensory gating, masking, and hypervigilance....

Cost & Insurance

The Superbill: Get Your Money Back from Insurance

The prohibitive cost is the greatest barrier to diagnosis. The superbill is your weapon to claw back the money the system owes you....

Neurodiversity & Parenting

Talking to Kids About Therapy (Without the Weird)

Worried therapy will be scary for your child? Co-regulation is the biological foundation. A practical, strengths-based script for the conversation....

Cost & Insurance

Does Insurance Cover Telehealth? Let's Verify Together

ADHD is an Executive Function Disorder. The insurance company's confusing portal is a direct tax on your most impaired capacity. We handle it....

Assessment & Testing

Assessments Built for Your Couch: Telehealth Guide

Terrified to turn on your camera? Don't clean up. Your 'chaos' is valuable clinical data, and telehealth assessment is accurate....

Our Team

Therapist Credentials: What the Alphabet Soup Means

Not all therapy credentials are equal. A guide to what LPC, LCSW, PhD, and PsyD actually mean — and why specialization matters more than any letters....

Therapy & Coaching

Therapist vs. Coach: A Guide to Avoiding Predatory Coaching.

Predatory coaching targets the neurodivergent community. The difference between therapist and coach is licensure, ethics, and liability....

Getting Started

This is a Conversation, Not a Contract.

The therapeutic alliance predicts outcomes more than any technique. This call is about whether our nervous systems can connect — not about locking you in....

Cost & Insurance

Therapy vs. Assessment Cost: A Transparent Pricing Guide

Emotional safety is a prerequisite for engagement. Our pricing model isn't about business — it's a clinical tool to keep your nervous system safe....

Getting Started

No, You're Not Going on an 8-Month Waitlist.

Post-diagnosis, individuals are abandoned at a 'support cliff.' An 8-month waitlist isn't popularity — it's a system designed to extinguish your momentum....

Neurodiversity & Parenting

Co-Regulation: The Most Powerful Parenting Tool

Sticker charts don't work. Co-regulation is the mechanism for secure attachment. Stop being a tactician and become the safe harbor your child needs....

Neurodiversity & Trauma

Stop Talking About Trauma Until Your Body Is Ready

You can't talk a nervous system out of a state it wasn't talked into. Memory reconsolidation requires safety first — not narrative force. Here's why....

ADHD & Neurodiversity

You're Already Paying the ADHD Tax. Let's Stop the Bleeding.

The ADHD tax is not a cute meme. It's a real financial drain bleeding you dry. Understanding the late fees, impulse buys, and why therapy is the best ROI....

Neurodiversity

AuDHD Therapist Guide for Partners and Parents

The Double Empathy Problem is a mutual gap, not a deficit in your loved one. An AuDHD therapist is a bridge — fluent in both neurological languages....

Neurodiversity & Trauma

It's Not "Just" a Bad Experience. It's Trauma.

Epigenetic changes from early trauma are self-sustaining with real impact on your stress system. Your symptoms are the data that proves it was real....

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