Because "Social Skills Training" implies you failed. An autopsy implies the interaction died, and we need to find out why. We dissect the event like a forensic pathologist dissects a body. We look at the environment, the hidden scripts, and the communication breakdown mechanistically, not judgmentally.
The Social Debrief:
Autopsy of a Social Event.
Social Skills Training is often just gaslighting.
We don't train you to perform. We train you to analyze the culture.
You Are An Intelligence
Analyst in a Foreign Land.
Let's call "social skills training" what it is: an insidious form of gaslighting. It tells you there is one "correct" way to be human, and you're defective for not knowing the script.
We reject that. We don't train commandos to be dancers. We train them to be commandos. And we don't train our clients to perform a neurotypical script. We train them to be Master Intelligence Analysts of a foreign culture they are forced to navigate every day.
The Social Debrief is our proprietary method. It transforms a confusing interaction from a personal failure into a rich source of objective intelligence.
The Mission Report.
We analyze your "failed" social event like a classified operation.
PHASE 01
Mission Briefing
The Frame: You are the field agent. I am the handler. We treat the dinner party as a mission into hostile territory.
The Intel: "Refrain from judging the outcome. You made it back alive. Now let's analyze the compiled data."
PHASE 02
Script Analysis
The Frame: What "local customs" were running? (e.g., The "Performative Listening" script? The "Competitive Storytelling" script?)
The Intel: Helps you realize: "I wasn't awkward; I just didn't have the decryption key for that specific ritual."
PHASE 03
Cost Assessment
The Frame: What was the energy cost of your cover identity? If you started with 100 units, how many did the Mask cost you?
The Intel: Validates your exhaustion. It wasn't "just dinner"—it was 2 hours of high-stakes improv acting.
PHASE 04
Failure Analysis
The Frame: Where did the data transfer fail? We apply the Double Empathy Problem to the mismatch.
The Intel: "I sent Data Packet A. Their OS received Data Packet B. The error was in the translation layer, not my intent."
Stop Performing.
Start Analyzing.
True social confidence doesn't come from memorizing a script. It comes from understanding the system. When you approach a party as an anthropologist or a spy, you gain a critical distance that protects your nervous system.
You stop asking "What is wrong with me?" and start asking "What are the rules of this specific game, and do I want to play it?"
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Common Questions
No. It's for anyone who feels like they are constantly performing a role they never auditioned for. Whether you have social anxiety, autism, or just hate small talk, the Debrief helps you stop blaming yourself for the exhaustion of navigating a world not built for you.
It won't make the world less exhausting, but it will validate why you are exhausted. Once you realize that a 2-hour party costs you 500 units of energy because of Masking Labor, you stop calling yourself "lazy" for needing a nap afterwards. You treat the rest as essential recovery.
God no. That would be a nightmare. We only debrief the "missions" that went sideways or left you feeling drained. The goal is to build a database of intelligence so that eventually, you can spot the patterns in real-time and navigate them with less effort.
It's a Trojan Horse. We use the "Spy" frame to get past your shame defenses. Once we're safely analyzing the event as a "mission," we can actually access the deep, painful feelings (Tier 3) without you shutting down. We validate the emotion by deconstructing the system that caused it.
